the boom

i recently saw a photo of five awesome women, all sitting in a loungeroom. all smiling faces.

they were all on the one couch, all in a row. and all of them held a baby that was about 6-months old. all of the children belonged to the women.

it’s quite a sight, seeing five women with five babies of about the same age. in the same way that it’s quite a sight seeing any five people in a row all holding up anything of the same type. you realise that it’s officially a ‘thing’.

i know i will sound unkind about this, but i almost want to say that it’s a trend.

it’s certainly a boom.

i don’t think it’s just because facebook shows me all the baby photos from all women around my age, or because i hang out with some peeps who are having kids, but everyone is having children! it’s quite amazing.

and the older i get, the more i feel decidedly on the outer of that boom. and even more committed to my decision to not have children.

i feel quite strongly about my place in society, the world and my friend’s circles, as the woman who hasn’t had children.

i am quite old fashioned in believing that a woman’s identity is not just as a mother or a whore. i feel like it’s quite important that i remind the world (both men and women) that women are also artists, academics, thinkers, travellers, code-monkeys, writers and a myriad of other things we contribute.

i feel like it’s my role to provide mothers with other things to talk about other than nappy rash, difficulties with teething/sleeping/feeding. they may not want to talk about those things for a while. but when they do, someone needs to have held the fort.

i want to be the one who still goes out dancing until 5am regularly, without it being some kind of nostalgic kick-back to my youth. surely womanhood is an extension of such exhileration?

and, if i’m really honest, i’m quite disappointed at this current boom – largely made up of gen x-ers who, like me, grew up with the riot grrl crew – spouting the importance of fucking with female role models, railing against hair bands, not shaving our legs, swearing, fucking. i know that’s a bit black’n’white thinking of me, but there, i said it.

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whoa, mama.

on my last night in sydney, i went out to dinner with a lovely mix of ‘family’ – my mum and a bunch of other (mostly) women i call my family – friends of mine and mum’s who have been like extended family to me.

we ended up at wagamama on the wharf and i wanted to tell you all about it for a couple of reasons. firstly because it’s such a great place to eat, and i put it up there with the new style of companies with real principles.

secondly because their menu design reminded me of my blog! (self-absorbed? me? never!)

positive eating + positive living
being foodies, mum and i wanted to take the opportunity of being in sydney to go to billy kwong for dinner, but that meant having to leave behind those whose financial priorities didn’t center around food 🙂 so, trying to accomodate as many of us as possible, i decided that wagamama was the best choice and it turned out to be absolutely perfect! it was accessible for all of us in various ways: we had gluten free kids, vegetarian kids, kids watching their calory intake, those with big budgets, those with small budgets, kids in wheelchairs and all of us who love a pretty view.

wagamama’s principle is positive eating + positive living, and while some places may boast a similar idea, the experience is usually far from it. what could have been a real disappointment with our booking not being sorted (we asked for a window table so that jenny in the wheelchair could actually move around easily), ended up being handled excellently by the team leader.

once we got our fantastic table, it was all so easy – we had side dishes all round, all kinds of different mains with a real sense of sharing and discovery. all of us felt nourished and treated, without having to go posh.

the menu explicitly explained the the food comes out in the order as it’s cooked (as opposed to waiting for everyone’s to be ready before they serve), but that they encourage sharing and tasting, so that nobody goes hungry!

what a fucking awesome principle. not just in a restaurant, but life in general.

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